This weeks issue of the Christian Marriage Secrets Newsletter has been posted.

You can read it here.

Posted: January 31st, 2008 under Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, christian sex education.
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A surprising percentage of couples sleep in separate bedrooms.

Sometimes this is a sure sign of problems in the relationship.

Sometimes it is simply a necessity.

Either way, these couples need to implement strategies to ensure that the sexual part of their relationship does not die.

In the following video, Lisa Thomas, a Sex Therapist, addresses strategies for these couples to keep their love lives active…

Posted: January 30th, 2008 under Christian Sex.
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Recently, the History Channel aired a documentary titled, “Sex And Love In The Bible.”

As with most secular perspectives on Christianity, you will find some viewpoints that you may not agree with.

And (be warned) the discussions are very frank and do show some nudity (within artwork only).

But, for those of you fascinated with how the Bible addresses sexuality, I think you will find this video very interesting.

For best results, I recommend that you don’t click on the actual video…just the “play arrow” in the lower left corner.

You will need to get a cup of coffee for this video…it is over an hour long.

Enjoy.

Posted: January 29th, 2008 under Christian Sex, Sex and God.
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For the next 24 hours, we are offering a special discount price on our entire “Ultimate Christian Sex Library.”

It has been quite some time since we offered one of these “extremely limited time” discount offers…and it may be quite some time till we do again.

Until Tuesday, January, 29th @ Noon (EST), you can order our entire library package for only $39.00!

Please take advantage of this offer before the order link is removed.

You can take advantage of this special “subscribers only” offer here.

Posted: January 28th, 2008 under Special Offers.
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John Gray is the author of “Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus.”

Below he talks about “How Men Communicate.”

It is a great explanation of “the power of the little things.”

And, after watching it, you might want to re-check out yesterday’s recommended resource, “300 Creative Dates.” It is filled with tons of cheap, creative ways to score points in “the little things…”

Enjoy.

Posted: January 25th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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The “Christian Marriage Secrets Newsletter” for January 24th, 2008 is posted HERE.

Posted: January 24th, 2008 under Christian Sex Advice, Christian Marriage, Christian Romance.
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If you are looking to impress your spouse with your kissing skill, iVillage.com has a post that details 14 different styles of kissing in an article titled 14 Spicy Ways to Give Blissful Kisses

The details are in the article for each.

The names are:

1. The Beginner’s Kiss
2. The Butterfly Kiss
3. The Droplet
4. The Eastern Swirl and Poke
5. The good old French Kiss
6. The Lover’s Pass
7. The Lush Lap
8. The Medieval Necklet
9. The Mediterranean Flick
10. The Naughty Dog
11. The Sliding Kiss
12. The Snake
13. The Stretch
14. The Vacuum Kiss

If you are looking for information in general about how to improve your kissing skills, many of our readers swear by “Kissing 101:The Essentials.”

It is just one of the great resources that you can find in our Christian Marriage Resources section.

Posted: January 23rd, 2008 under Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, Christian Romance, kissing.
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A new product has just been released that claims to provide a non-prescription solution for female arousal issues.

It is called Zestra and is now available widely, over the counter.

On their website, they make the following claims…

Clinical studies show Zestra® increases arousal and pleasure, improving the satisfaction of both women and their partners.

Zestra®, the only women’s intimacy product clinically shown to quickly increase female sexual sensation, arousal and pleasure, is the topically applied, non-prescription solution that significantly enhances sexual satisfaction of women and their partners. Recommended by numerous books on women’s sexual health, Zestra is the leading women’s intimacy product in the United States and is sold at 40,000 retailers.

Applied during foreplay, Zestra is the long-awaited breakthrough for the 43 percent women that have problems with desire, arousal and enjoying satisfying sexual experiences. Leading women’s health professionals recommend Zestra because it’s the only clinically studied product available that effectively addresses female sexual problems. Zestra’s patented formula is the result of seven years of research and clinical testing.

Specifically designed for the sensitive needs of women, Zestra is hormone-free and does not contain potentially harmful synthetic chemicals or parabens. Parabens, which the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency views as disrupters of the body’s endocrine system, have been linked to breast cancer, lowered sperm counts and allergic reactions. Zestra is an all-natural formulation of two botanical oils and two extracts, protected by United States and European patents.

Zestra in particular helps women who are suffering sexual side effects resulting from menopause, depression, the use of SSRI anti-depressants, a hysterectomy, hormonal changes, diabetes, and aging.

Below is a news report I found about Zestra.

Please let us know if you try it. We would love to know your results.

Posted: January 22nd, 2008 under Christian Sex, Female Sexual Dysfunction, Christian Wives, Female Sexuality.
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About.com has posted an article regarding the sexual benefits of exercise.

As much as I try to ignore any articles that talk about exercise, I agree with it’s premises.

You can read the entire article here.

Highlights…

-Exercise Improves Sexual Performance

-Exercise Means More Sex

-Exercise Helps Sexual Aging

-Reduces Erectile Dysfunction

-Gives an Endorphin Release

-Exercise Adds Options to your sex life.

-The Bottom Line: if better health isn’t enough motivation to get you into the gym or out for a run, maybe better sex will be. Use the information here to inspire yourself to increase your fitness and just watch what may happen to your sex life.

Posted: January 21st, 2008 under Uncategorized, Christian Sex, Christian Sex Advice.
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I’m a big fan of John Eldredge, author of the book, “Wild at heart.”

John is a proponent of living life passionately.

In our ministry, we see many Christians struggling with how to balance their “humanness” with their Christianity; they sometimes feel as if being a Christian means that they are supposed to go through life suppressing their passions.

John always makes a great case for the fact that God wants us to be more fully human…not less.

Below is a posting from his website, www.ransomedheart.com.

It deals with how we interpret the struggles in our lives (and marriages).

Do we interpret our lives and struggles as mundane, negative events to avoid?

Or, do we see them as epic (necessary and intended) battles with the world, Satan and ourselves?

I believe that we need to choose the latter interpretation.

We need to be more “wild at heart”…not less.

Below the post is a video by Bruce Carroll. He is performing a song inspired by Eldredge’s “Wild at heart” called “Big World.”

Enjoy and go into your weekend with God…and passion.

My friends,

It seems that the central difficulty we all face is how we interpret our lives.
Sometimes, our prayers are answered…but sometimes they aren’t. Why is that?

Sometimes, God seems so near…but sometimes, he seems to have abandoned us. Why is that?

The things that have happened to you in your life – why did that happen? And how come the things you so
desperately wanted to happen didn’t?

You see, whether we rise or fall, whether or not we keep faith or lose it, if we are going to live from the heart, we have got to see more clearly what’s happening to us. As Paul said, we must see “with the eyes of our heart” (Eph 1:18). Allow me to share with you, then, an excerpt from the book I’m working on, entitled Waking the Dead…
Things are not what they seem And what do all those great stories and myths tell us? What does every fairy tale have in common? Wherever they may come from, whatever their shape might be, they nearly always speak to us Three Eternal Truths. First, things are not what they seem. There is a whole lot more going on here than meets the eye.

After the tornado, Dorothy steps out of her old farm house to find herself in a strange new world, a land of Munchkins and fairies and Wicked Witches. The land of Oz. Alice falls through the rabbit hole into Wonderland. Jacob falls into a dream under the desert stars, and sees a ladder “resting on the earth, with its top reaching to heaven, and the angels of God…ascending and descending on it” (Gen 28:12). He wakes, more awake than he’s ever been in his life thanks to the dream, and realizes for the first time that there is more going on around him than he ever imagined. “Surely the Lord is in this place, and I was not aware of it” (28:16).
This is precisely what the Bible has warned us against all these years – “un-awareness.” We live in two worlds – or better, in one world with two halves, part which you can see and part which you cannot. We are urged, for our own welfare, to act as though the unseen world is in fact more
weighty and more real and more dangerous than the part of reality we can see. Things are not what they seem. Not by a long shot.
We are at War

There is another, more urgent quality to every true myth. The Second Great Truth brought to us comes like a broken message over the radio, or an urgent telegram from a distant country, telling us that some great struggle, quest or battle is well underway. May even be hanging in the
balance. When the four children stumble into Narnia, that lovely country is under the spell of the White Witch and has been for a hundred years. In another story, Jack and his mother are starving and must sell their only cow. Frodo barely makes it out of the Shire with his life. In the nick of time he learns that the ring he bears is the fabled One Ring, that Sauron has discovered its whereabouts, and the Nine Black Riders are already across the borders searching for the little hobbit with deadly intent. The future of all Middle Earth hangs in the balance.
Again, this exactly what the Scriptures have been trying to wake us up to for years. Christianity isn’t a religion about Sunday School and pot luck suppers, being nice and holding car washes and sending our second-hand clothes off to Mexico. This is a world at war. Something dangerous is unfolding all around us, we are caught up in it, and above all doubt we have been given a key role to play. Do you think I’m being a bit too dramatic? Read again the tale told in the story of Daniel, chapter ten. A cosmic battle, an unanswered prayer, a man caught in the middle.
The reason we love Star Wars or Narnia or The Matrix is because they are telling us something about reality that we never, ever get on the evening news. Or from most pulpits. This is our most desperate hour. Without this burning in our hearts, we lose the meaning of our days. It all
withers down to deadlines and bills and voicemail and who really cares anyway?

Do you see what has happened? The essence of our faith has been stripped away. The very thing that was to give our lives meaning and protect us – this way of seeing – has been lost. Or stolen from us. It is as if we have landed on the beaches of Normandy in the early hours of D-Day, June 6, 1945, with a lawn chair and a book to read. We are mistaken; we are that unprepared for our lives.
Things aren’t what they seem. This is a world at war. Now for the most stunning news of all.
The Weight of Your Glory

Last, but not least, not by a long shot, every mythic story shouts to us that in this desperate hour we have a crucial role to play. That is the Third Great Truth and it happens to be the one we most desperately need if we are ever to understand our days. Dorothy is just a farm girl from Kansas, who stumbled into Oz because someone had hurt her feelings and she decided to run away from home. Yet she’s the one to bring down the Wicked Witch. Frodo, the little Halfling from the Shire, young and naive in so many ways, “the most unlikely person imaginable,” is the Ring Bearer. A little boy will slay the giant; a loud-mouthed fisherman who can’t hold down a job will lead the Church and a whore with a golden heart is the one to perform the deed that Jesus asked us all to tell “whenever the gospel is told around the world” (**).
A glory has been given to you, a glory the enemy fears. All his powers are set against that glory…which is to say, against your heart. I believe if you’ll hold this up like a candle to light your way, things will suddenly come much more clear to you. At least, that is my prayer.
Fighting on, and in desperate need of your help,

John

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Posted: January 17th, 2008 under Christian Culture.
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