Today is the last day of 2007.

If you are like me, you are looking to 2008 with a combination of anticipation and anxiety.

Some things, this year, seemed positive and bode well for the next year.

Others…not so much.

For many of you that visit this site regularly, it is your marriage that creates a bit of that anxiety for you.

Well, on this last day of 2007, I want to assure you that 2008 can be the year that your marriage becomes EVERYTHING that you ever hoped and dreamed it can be.

In Lamentations (3:22-23), Scripture tells us, “Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed,for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

His mercies are not new just every year…but every morning.

We do not have to start the next year with just the feeble confidence gained by new resolutions or shored up willpower. We can count on the fact that God himself is looking over our shoulder and working to help us to “avoid being consumed.”

My New Year’s suggestion for you is to get on your knees at some point today so that you have the confidence that you are starting out in the correct “position.”

And, just as God provides us with “new mercies” every morning, I would encourage you to allow for “new mercies” in your marriage…starting right this moment.

It is possible, between you and God, to start transforming your marriage with or without immediate cooperation from your spouse.

You have the creator of the Universe moving within your relationship.

And, you are half of the equation. Changing YOU must change the overall relationship. But, it can’t happen if you don’t expect and ACT.

One action item as you look at the new year…

Starting today, start breaking the old pattern.

Start to act “as if” your marriage is everything you wish it to be TODAY and YOU start to act as the type of spouse that you would desire.

Give it a few days and I think you’ll be surprised at the almost magical changes that you start to notice in your spouse and relationship.

If you need help in the sexual area of your marriage, you also may want to consider getting some help through Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband or Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife.

If you feel as if your marital issues are more relationship-based, I would suggest you check out Saving My Marriage Today.

Have a wonderful New Year’s holiday.

Posted: December 31st, 2007 under Christian Marriage.
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I found the following poem by Trish Thompson that I thought would make a nice “New Year’s Weekend” gift to you and your spouse.

It can remind you of the preciousness of your marriage relationship and the reality that it is Jesus that holds it all together for us all.

Enjoy.

I sat and played with beads last night,
a new design was this day’s find,
using tiny round beads and long, slim tubes,
the prettiest ones that I could find

The design put them together in
a diagonal weave so fine,
at first it didn’t look like much,
this one would take some time

When it was done, I looked at it,
it did not look quite done,
there was something else I could do
but I could not think of one

Then it came to me to add
crystal beads along the side,
oh, they caught the light and spread it over
all the beads that were inside!

How it reminded me of our love
an intermingled design of love,
but it is God who holds us both together,
His gift of grace from above

He adds the sparkle to our days,
His grace shines like the sun,
and the beauty spreads through both of us,
becoming the wonder of ‘one’!

I am so glad that Jesus is
beside us in all we say and do
and because of Him, my heart overflows
with joy because “I LOVE YOU”!

The design of our days is simple enough
but full of all that is lovely and true,
and even the little things are such treasures
just because I LOVE YOU!!

Posted: December 28th, 2007 under Christian Marriage.
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There are currently three personal coaching program openings still available.

If you have tried everything else to improve your marriage and sex life, you still have a chance to get personal, one-on-one coaching.

For details, go to www.achristiansexsite.com/coaching_options.html.

Posted: December 11th, 2007 under Christian Marriage, relationship coaching.
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The Personal coaching description page and order links are now live!

Order at Personal, One-On-One Relationship and Sex Coaching Program

Please sign up as soon as possible.

There are only twenty (20) memberships available and future slots will only open up as the original members move on.

It may be months before you have another opportunity to join the Personal Coaching Program.

Let this be the Christmas and New Year that you remember as “the new beginning” of your sexual and marriage fulfillment.

Sincerely,

Robert And Susan Irwin

Posted: December 7th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, relationship coaching.
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Are you frustrated that your love life is not everything that you dreamed it would be?

Do you secretly wish for more passion, variety and frequency of the sex in your marriage?

Does your sex life (or lack of a sex life) cause tension and arguments with your spouse?

Are you tired of feeling like passion, true intimacy and an exciting sex life is only for other couples?

Do you want to ensure your efforts to improve your sex life and marriage are Scripturally sound?

If so, you finally have a solution!

Susan and I will personally guide you, step-by-step, to a more exciting, fulfilling and satisfying sex life and marriage.

Tomorrow, Friday, December 7th, at 10 AM Eastern we will open the doors for 20 private one-on-one coaching members who are serious about improving their sex lives and marriage relationships. This coaching will be done, primarily via email. So, you will have the opportunity to transform your sex life and marriage, in complete privacy, in the comfort of your own home.

Susan and I have been struggling with our inability to do any significant one-on-one sexual and relationship coaching.

With all of our ministry-related sites now receiving over 150,000 visitors per month, we have been forced to focus our time and energies on the relatively mundane aspects of ensuring that “the basics” of our online ministry are running smoothly.

We really miss the personal coaching we did in the past. Nothing gives us more joy than helping others to escape marital and sexual desperation and dissatisfaction by guiding them, step-by-step, to a marriage and sex life filled with true intimacy, satisfaction and fulfillment. So, we have recently made some changes in our ministry which will make it possible for us to offer this service to a small number of readers.

When Susan and I were first learning how to make our love life and marriage more intimate, exciting and fulfilling, I really wish that we had had a similar option.

Most sexual and marriage counselors or therapists cost over $120 per hour.

Your interaction with a counselor is limited to the hour per week that you are in his or her office.

You have to schedule the time each week and drive to their office.

Most sexual and marriage counselors are not integrating their faith into their practice. You have no idea if their advice will be something which conflicts with Scripture.

It’s very difficult to keep your sessions with a counselor private (especially from your spouse).

Most importantly, you have no idea if your counselor’s marriage or sex life is any better than yours!

With our coaching program, you will have (virtually) unlimited access to Susan and I (Monday through Thursday) via email.

You will receive a special “coaching email address” that will go directly to us…not someone on our staff. Your information will be kept completely private and confidential.

If you choose, you can add one, forty five minute phone session per month, as well. As a member of our personal coaching program, you will never again feel alone in your journey to transform your love life and marriage.

Susan and I will be a part of your “intimacy team.” Together, here are just a few things we can accomplish together…

-Reignite the sexual passion in your marriage-so your marriage can, once-again, become full of surprises-heated spiritually, intellectually, emotionally and fulfilling sex!

-Strengthen and grow your sexual and emotional relationship by discovering a proven, realistic and Scriptural framework for better understanding your current relationship and how sex affects every aspect.

-Discover the difference between sex and true intimacy and start experiencing intimate moments with your spouse both in and out of the bedroom.

-Increase the passion, excitement and frequency of your sex without creating unneeded stress, anxiety or arguments with your spouse.

-Utilize better sex to improve your marriage relationship and your improved marriage relationship to make your sex better!

-Discover compelling reasons to have the courage to try something new-truly intimate, deeply satisfying sex.

-Develop communication tools and skills which will allow you to break the sexual and emotional gridlock in your marriage.

-Discover why being complacent about poor sex could cost your marriage and save your marriage from divorce or years of a boring, passionless relationship.

-Develop creative ways to inspire your spouse to change and tools to make your spouse more responsive.

-Create a plan to enhance your sexual relationship-the most successful strategy is a step-by-step process…and good intentions are not enough!

-Discover why the older you are (and the longer you’ve been married), the better. Despite popular thinking, your age and the length of your marriage INCREASE your odds of creating ‘true intimacy’ in your marriage!

-Integrate your Christian beliefs with your sexual needs and desires-Unravel the mysteries that have (thus far) surrounded your marital sex and caused unneeded guilt, shame and frustration.

In our coaching program, you will also find…

-No Judgment, Guilt or Shame - We’ve either experienced (or heard) it all. In our approach, you can rest assured we won’t be playing “the blame game” and causing you any additional emotional pain.

-Realistic expectations - We don’t deal in fairy tales. Creating a successful, exciting and passionate Christian marriage and sex life takes work, commitment and a realistic idea of what can be accomplished.

-You will be the focus - Our coaching approach is all about you! You are not trying to live up to my expectations. We will be working with the real-world relationship situation in which you find yourself and working toward your dreams, goals and wishes.
-You will be encouraged to become more attractive to your spouse, sexually and in general. It is very possible to transform a marriage simply by learning how to transform yourself.

-You will be empowered to become a stronger, more confident happy person. Everything starts with you…and much can be accomplished even if your spouse has little or no interest in changing (right now).

-A short process - We have little patience for sexual and relationship coaching that assumes you need to spend months or years “gazing at your navel” before you can make dramatic changes in your marriage and sex life. We want to get you started on the road to marital and sexual bliss as quickly and easily as possible.

-You will set us straight. Every marriage is different. You can rest assured I will be listening and trying to understand your unique situation and all of our work will be based on your needs and goals…not some “one size fits all” template.

Tomorrow morning, Friday, December 7th, we will post the link to the sign up page for this coaching program. And, at 10 AM Eastern, the order links will be active.

Because we expect all twenty slots to fill up very quickly, please sign up as soon as possible. Future slots will only open up as the original members move on and it may be months before you have another opportunity to join.

Shouldn’t this be the Christmas and New Year that you will always remember as “the new beginning” of your sexual and marriage fulfillment?

Sincerely,

Robert And Susan Irwin

Posted: December 6th, 2007 under Uncategorized, Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, Christian Romance, relationship coaching.
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Susan and I are excited to announce we are going to have the opportunity to provide personal, one-on-one sex and relationship coaching to a small number of our readers.This Friday, December 7th, at 10 AM Eastern we will open the doors for 20 private, one-on-one, coaching members who are serious about improving their sex lives and marriage relationships.

Books and videos can be helpful. But, for some, the only (and possibly last) chance they will have to save themselves from a life of sexual and relational desperation is to have someone personally guide them, step-by-step, through the emotional and confusing journey from marriage disappointment to marriage fulfillment.

In the past few years, we have not had the ability to provide this type of focused, customized coaching. But, we have recently made some changes in our ministry which will make it possible for us to offer this service to a small number of readers.

Personal coaching will help you to…

-Reignite the sexual passion in your marriage…hotter and more exciting than it has ever been.

-Develop communication tools and skills to break the “emotional gridlock” in your marriage.

-Discover the difference between sex and true intimacy.

-Provide you with realistic expectations and a “game plan” to achieve them.

-Empower you to make progress…knowing that you are not alone anymore.

This coaching program will cost significantly less than any similar personal, one-on-one options that are available. In a nutshell, you will get (almost) unlimited access to Susan and I for a month…for what it would cost you for one hour with most counselors or therapists.

If you have tried everything else…with no success…I would suggest that you seriously consider signing up for this program as soon as it is available because we can only offer this program to twenty (20) people or couples at a time; program slots will probably fill up within a few hours of our official opening of this program, this Friday, December 7th, at 10 AM Eastern.

Tomorrow, we will give you more details and the link to the sign up page.

If you have ANY inkling that you might need or desire this type of personal approach, please look for tomorrow’s post and sign up as early as possible on Friday.

Sincerely,

Robert And Susan Irwin

Posted: December 5th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, relationship coaching.
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Lee Baucom, Ph.D. is one of our closest friends and is now working with us to ensure that all of our coaching and counseling is as valuable as possible.

Lee posted the following article on his blog, titled ” Hint: Starting Divorce Proceedings Is NOT A Marriage-Saving Action!”

I finally decided to say this in my blog. . . because I keep saying the same thing in emails! It started this morning. Another email telling me that she wanted to save her marriage, but that she had filed for divorce. Her question was how to start the conversation with her spouse.

My answer is “stop the legal process!” There is nothing in that process that will help get people back together. There is nothing that will help to solve the problem by filing for divorce. There is nothing in the action that will get the attention someone might be looking for.

Yet every week, I receive a couple of letters that say the same thing: “I don’t want to get divorced, but I don’t know what to do, so I filed.” Somewhere, I still fail to see the logic here, even though I know what they are thinking.

At some point, the desperation gets to the point that it feels like there is nothing else that can be done (there is. See my ebook.) But when it doesn’t feel like there is anything to be done, we start making panicky, foolish decisions. Filing for divorce is one of them.

Many people have told me that the only reason they filed was to get their spouse’s attention. Instead, the majority got a divorce!

An attorney may tell you that you can stop the process as any time. That is true, in the theoretical sense. But once someone files, something changes psychologically. When the case is listed in court with the “versus” between the names, they are not kidding! The process is adversarial by its nature. A relationship is being taken apart. And the effect on each person’s psychology is devastating.

What saddens me is how many OK marriages, marriages that could and should be saved, are tossed away because someone decided to file — didn’t want to file, but didn’t know what else to do. If you are in that situation, please let me remove that option from your vocabulary!

It is a good example of Lee’s common sense approach to marital counseling.

Lee is completely dedicated to saving as many Christian marriages from divorce as possible.

Also, as a special offer, to our readers only, Lee is offering his comprehensive audiovisual seminar program, Transform Your Christian Marriage, to you at a significant discount. If you are seeking ways to transform your marriage, you should check out his offer here.

Posted: December 3rd, 2007 under Christian Marriage.
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