Last week, in our “Christian Marriage Secrets Newsletter,” I mentioned that we were putting the finishing touches on a ew book, “Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples,” a sexual games and ideas resource.
Soon after, we received several emails from readers that were “concerned” that we would be writing and offering such book.
These individuals felt that there was no place in Christian marriage for this type of resource.
So, before we officially start offering this new book (we are pre-launching this book with a special discount offer tomorrow, February 29th), I thought it would be appropriate to explain why we developed this resource and why we are very excited and proud to be offering it to our readers…
THOUSANDS OF READERS HAVE REQUESTED IT:
Most of our readers and web visitors were introduced to our ministry through our original sex guides, Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband and Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife.
These guides are considered (by many…even outside of the Irwin family) to be the standard in basic sexual education for Christian couples.
In these guides, Christian husbands and wives can discover and explore the “technical” aspects necessary to creating a positive and mutually-satisfying sexual relationship.
Without this “technical” knowledge, it would be difficult for any couple to easily achieve sexual satisfaction. In these guides, we teach couples “how to ride the bike” of marital sexuality without frustration or hitting the curb (wow…really stretching that analogy!).
But, once you know how to “ride the bike,” without falling over, you want to know how to make bike riding enjoyable, fun and interesting…for a lifetime. Riding your bike in circles in your driveway might be fun…for awhile…but, sooner or later, most will want to venture out of the
driveway.
After our readers have mastered the basic, “technical” skills of great marital sex, they then start looking for ways to make their sex lives enjoyable, fun and interesting…for a lifetime. They (I’m not giving up on this analogy) want to know how to “pop wheelies” and how to make
their “married sex biking” more exciting (suggestion: put cards in the spokes to make it sound like a motorcycle).
So, we have received, literally, thousands of requests from Christian couples that are looking for ideas, tricks, tips, suggestions on how to “spice up” their sex lives…for the long term.
WE LIKE THIS PART OF OUR JOB:
Putting together this new book was a total joy for me and Susan.
As much as we enjoy helping couples to learn “the basics” and to overcome sexual problems and limitations, there is a special pleasure in helping other Christian couples to make their sex lives truly fun and exciting.
Creating and offering this type of resource is EXACTLY what our ministry is all about: offering tangible, creative and
REAL information that will help Christian couples to make the sex in their marriages a positive, relationship-bonding and strengthening experience.
This book does exactly that.
It is filled with hundreds of ideas for stoking the fire of your marriage’s sexual relationship.
THIS IS HOW SEX IN A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE SHOULD BE:
C.S. Lewis wrote, in his book The Four Loves, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.”
Lewis Smedes, professor of theology at Fuller Seminary once said, “God made us body people. Bodies are meant to play and-we can add-to be played with.”
We titled this book “Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples” for a reason. We want to actively promote the “fun” and “playful” aspects of sex within Christian marriage.
If you have been one of our readers or visitors for any length of time, you know that one of our main goals is to destroy the dangerous and wrong notion that God intended sex to be anything less than this.
This book is a resource for sexual exploration.
What does it mean to be a sensual, yet holy, sexual explorer?
Our best Scriptural reference for sexual exploration is the Song of Solomon.
The Song of Solomon (SOS) is a beautiful and explicit description of the sexual relationship between Solomon and his new bride.
What does Scripture tell us about their journey of sexual exploration?
THEY WERE RESPONSIVE TO EACH OTHER’S SEXUAL NEEDS…
“Make my garden breathe out fragrance, let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!” (4:16)
THEY WERE ADVENTUROUS…
“Come my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see whether the vine hath budded, and its blossom is open, and the pomegranates are in the flower: there will I give thee my love.” (7:11-12)
THEY WERE UNINHIBITED…
She tells her husband exactly how to make love to her and dances provocatively for him.
“Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; Blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his precious fruits.” (2:6)
“How beautiful are thy feet in sandals, O prince’s daughter! Thy rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a skilful workman. Thy body is like a round goblet, wherein no mingled wine is wanting: Thy waist is like a heap of wheat set about with lilies. Thy two breasts are like two fawns that are twins of a roe.” (7:1-3)
THEY WERE EXPRESSIVE…
They were not afraid to express their love and passion, verbally.
“My beloved is mine and I am his.” (2:16)
“Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men.” (2:3)
THEY WERE SENSOUS…
“My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand…His head is as the most fine gold; His locks are bushy, and black as a raven… His eyes are like doves beside the water-brooks, Washed with milk, and fitly set… His cheeks are as a bed of spices, As banks of sweet herbs:
His lips are as lilies, dropping liquid myrrh… His hands are as rings of gold set with beryl: His body is as ivory work overlaid with sapphires… His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: His aspect is like Lebanon, excellent as the cedars…His mouth is most sweet; Yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem…” (5:10-16)
As all of this physical, sensual activity is taking place, God Himself is in the room observing.
And, his verdict is one of approval. He states, emphatically, “Eat friends, drink and imbibe deeply, O Lovers!” (5:1)
Drs. Dan Allender and Tremper Longman, in their book, Intimate Allies, say, “A taste of God is found in sexual foreplay, heightened arousal, orgasm and quiescence.”
THEY WERE CREATIVE…
You need to look no further than SOS to find creative ideas for “spicing up” your sex life. Just follow it’s example.
They made creative use of fragrance.
“My lover is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi.” (1:14)
They made creative use of words.
“How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. Beloved…How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.” (1:15-16)
They made creative use of names.
“Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my lover among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.” (2:3)
“You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain…
…Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard…
…nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest
spices…
…You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.” (4:12-15)
They made creative use of dance.
“Come back, come back, O Shulammite; come back, come back, that we may gaze on you! Why would you gaze on the Shulammite as on the dance of Mahanaim?” (6:13)
“How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince’s daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman’s hands. Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine. Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies.” (7:1-2)
Becoming a sexual explorer means that you have no fear about exploring all angles of your (and your spouse’s) sexuality.
“Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples” will be the resource that provides HUNDREDS of creative ideas, questions, scenarios and suggestions for bringing all of the above to your married sex life.
And, you can get your personal copy…and save $20.00 during our Pre-Launch Introduction Discount Offer!
If you want to make this coming weekend (or any weekend) especially exciting, this could be the perfect offer for you.
Just keep on eye on your inbox (and this blog) for tomorrow’s note detailing the offer…

Posted: February 28th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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