I have just been alerted by several visitors that the link to the “Christian Sex Toy” site, Mybelovedsgarden.net is no longer working.

It appears as if that domain is no longer working or has moved.

I apologize for any inconvenience this may have caused you.

I am looking into the situation and will update you on the status as soon as I have one.

If this site is permanently down, we will be sure to create a new relationship that guarantees that you have the ability to purchase adult novelties in a non-pornographic and safe environment.

Until then, be creative. It’s amazing what you can accomplish with just what you find in your kitchen….

Posted: March 26th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Toys.
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Today, a few comments on your comments…

Recently, Bubba provided the following comment on our posting of the “Kama Sutra” teddy bear video:

I’m concerned about the “Big Ted and Little Ted” video that was shared. It was pointed out to me by my wife that with the title it seemed more homosexual in nature. I don’t think I would have used the video especially considering the source. Something to think about, the choice is yours…

First, it is important to make it clear that I sincerely respect the strongly held convictions of all fellow brothers and sisters. I understand that, even within the body of Christ, good Christians can disagree over issues. I mean no derision or disrespect to Bubba. But…

Part of the reason that I posted the video was because I knew that I might be “pushing the envelope” (however slightly) of some of our more conservative readers. And, I believe that it is my job to do that occasionally. Within its proper context, sex should not be off limits as a point of humor-even for Christians. And…they were Teddy bears! If you could watch that video (especially with the sexy music in the background) and not chuckle a little, YOU NEED to lighten up a bit.

I understand that Bubba’s complaint was his perception that the video might (in some way) be a “tool of the homosexual agenda” and that I should have better considered “the source.”

Honestly, it was only after posting the video that I realized that the bears were named “Big Ted” and “Little Ted.” But, even after that realization, I reasoned that, technically, ALL TEDDY BEARS ARE NAMED TED!

I have no idea the “source” of the video. It was not referenced where I found it. But, no matter “the source,” it was just a cute, funny little video. I don’t believe that it was a tool for promoting anything other than a laugh.

Which reminds me of a recent sermon by my pastor…

He talked about how there are “sins of commission” and “sins of omission” and that too many Christians spend way too much time focusing on the former and ignoring the latter.

Our “average” blog reader is a middle-aged, married Christian. They are not looking for us to enlighten them on the sins of homosexuality; we all agree that, according to Scripture, it is a sin. They are looking for direction in taking pro-active, positive and direct action to improve and make their Christian marriage stronger and more fulfilling.

I suppose that there is a place for individuals/blogs that crusade “against” certain types of sin. This is not that type of blog. This blog is focused on helping you to not create “sins of omission” in your marriage. Too many Christians spend way too much time focusing on what others are doing wrong and forget to focus on what they might not be doing…in their
own marriage. As Scripture says, “If you speak with the tongues of angels…” it will mean NOTHING if you don’t have LOVE (within your marriage).

We only have so much time, energy and intelligence to invest. We HAVE to actively decide on WHAT we are going to focus.

Do you choose to focus on what others are doing (wrong)? Or have you decided on focusing on what you aren’t yet doing (completely) right? Which focus do you think will have the greater benefit to you, your marriage, children and neighbors?

Wow! That turned into a full-fledged rant.

Tanja made the following comments on my post regarding “Tantric sex”…

I find it interesting that you site great sex is achieved through technical knowledge. AS a sexuality teacher I have to say you are wrong. IF that’s all it took most people would be having that kind of sex.

Since others may have misread my comments, as well…

I DO NOT believe that “great sex” is achieved only through technical knowledge. But, first, you must define “great sex.”

In my definition, “great sex” is intense, mind-blowing physical sensations that take place within the context of a Christian marriage relationship. But, “great sex” is NOT just the achievement of physical pleasure. It is also the use of sex in a way that bonds two souls in a way that no other human activity can. And, “great sex” (physically and metaphorically) reminds us of our “bride and groom” relationship with God. It is a little earthly glimpse of the ecstasy, joy and love that awaits us in eternity. IT IS NOT just multiple orgasms!

I agree that just “technical” knowledge is useless if your relationship is not solid. If you have read this blog for any period of time, you know that one of our maxims is…”Most sex problems have nothing to do with sex; they are relationship problems.”

In my experience, most people with technical sexual knowledge that aren’t experiencing “great sex” have relationship issues.

I do believe that the “technical” information found in our Christian sex guides (and many others by Christian authors) is CRITICAL, though, because, at base, successful sex (physically) is a matter of “technical” knowledge. In some early sexuality studies, doctors were amazed to find out that 90% of women thought to be “frigid” or “anorgasmic” were able to reach orgasm through mechanical stimulation via vibrators. They weren’t suffering from some deep emotional/spiritual deficit; they (and their husbands) didn’t understand the basic techniques necessary to achieve great (physical) sex. It isn’t rocket science! On many levels, God made our sexual capabilities very simple. But, some people lack even the basic technical knowledge.

Connected spiritual sex takes way more than technique. It takes a knowledge of being intimate, it takes an ability to see the holiness in your self and partner. That isn’t achieved with sexual technique.

Again, on this point, we agree. God first. Marriage second. Sex third. But, my problem with most Tantric “resources” is that their definitions of “holiness” and “intimacy” are tied to Eastern mystical concepts that differ greatly with the average Christian’s understanding of God and Jesus.

True Tantra, which has been watered down and changed to suit westerns, is a life philosophy, not religion, which teaches connection to self and God.
I think you are doing your readers a diservice by not providing accurate information on this topic. I will agree that there are very few teachers that are qualified to teach Tantra in a way isnt new age mumbo jumbo, but then again they aren’t teaching Tantra they are teaching sex with some techniques taken from Tantra and Taoism, which, incidentally, are the techinques you have used.

As with my example of my Tae Kwon Do experience, I am not afraid to “pick and choose” the secular concepts and benefits that “just happen” to have primarily originated in ancient Eastern philosophies.

I like the basic concept of “The Tao.” I like the idea that we should be aware of the positive/negative, good/bad in every situation. I specifically find the male/female concept helpful as we consider that we have both male and female aspects to our deepest selves. Knowing this helps us to better understand both ourselves and our spouses. But…

As Christians, we DO NOT believe many of the fundamental concepts taught in many “Tantra” or “Tantric” sources. We ARE NOT the same as God. We are not ONE WITH GOD in the sense that WE ARE God or that EVERYTHING IS
GOD. These are fundamental differences in belief, not small issues.

So, my “real” issue with most Tantric or Tantra resources is that they are redundant and unnecessary for Christians. For most of us, it is difficult enough to know what God and our spouse expects. We don’t have the time and energy to “pick and choose” what is good and bad from “Tantric” or “Tantra” resources.

Posted: March 23rd, 2007 under Christian Sex, Kama Sutra, Sex Positions, Tantric Sex, Tantra Sex.
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Many readers and visitors ask what we think about “Tantric Sex” or Tantra sex practices and how they relate to our ideas about Christian sex.

Similar to our post about Kama Sutra, Tantric or Tantra Sex are sexual practices that are closely tied to Eastern philosophical and/or religious traditions.

Similar to something like modern (Western) Yoga, it is possible for Christians to benefit from the purely “secular” forms of these ancient practices, while avoiding the underlying (traditional) philosophical or religious components.

Years ago, I took Tae Kwon Do. As you probably know, most martial arts (in the past) have been closely tied to a larger philosophical or religious/cultural context. But, the way that it was taught at my school, you would have never know anything about these things. I gained substantial physical and social benefits from Tae Kwon Do and never once had to deal with the baggage of it’s “history.” Similarly, if you approach Tantric Sex or Tantra Sex practices from a purely “secular” perspective, you may be able to gain similar physical and relational benefits.

Unfortunately, today, most “Tantric sex” or “tantra sex” resources are not so similarly detached from Tantra’s history or philosophies.

Most of the available resources for learning Tantric sex or tantra sex are steeped in “new age” junk. It is side-by-side with various (virtually) occultic content.

Consequently, I don’t recommend that anyone do any significant research into Tantric sex or tantra sex. Particularly because you can achieve the same goals of Tantric sex without dealing with the negative “baggage.”

Most people that are researching Tantric sex or tantra sex are looking to achieve two things:

1) A deeper “spiritual” connection through sex.

2) Longer, more intense sexual experiences.

Both of these goals can best be achieved through proper (and Scriptural) pursuit of Christian sexuality.

Your Christian marriage is the ONLY crucible in which ULTIMATE “spiritual connection” and bonding can take place. God designed sex and your marriage to provide you the ultimate “laboratory” for experiencing true “spiritual sex.” Tantric or Tantra sex practices (outside of a Christian marriage and Scriptural boundaries) can only achieve a pale imitation of what God intended for you!

Achieving longer, more intense sexual experiences is 90% a “technical” matter. If you have developed the “technical” knowledge and physical conditioning that is necessary for longer, more intense sexual experience, you do not need any “new age” mumbo jumbo to “blow the doors off” the sexual pleasure within your marriage.

Readers that have practiced what they found in Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband and Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife have reported that they can experience multiple, simultaneous orgasms with their spouse. And, some have
reported being capable of extending their lovemaking for as long as they desire.

Posted: March 22nd, 2007 under Christian Sex, Kama Sutra, Tantric Sex, Tantra Sex.
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A women on her deathbed called her husband and instructed him to look under their bed and open the wooden box he found. He was puzzled by the 3 eggs and $7,000 in cash he found in the box, so he asked his wife what the eggs were for.

“Oh those”, she replied, “every time we had bad sex, I put an egg in the box”.

Not bad, the husband thought to himself, after 35 years of marriage, then he asked, “But what about the $7,000?”

“Oh that”, she replied, “every time I got a dozen I sold them.”

Don’t let this happen to you!

Improve your Christian sex life with Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband and Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife and save yourself years worth of eggs under your bed!

Posted: March 21st, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, Humor.
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After many Christians have read Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband and Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife, they become so excited about their sexual possibilities that they begin their own “journey of sexual
exploration.”

Which means that I get quite a few questions regarding the “Kama Sutra.”

Christians want to know our opinion regarding whether the Kama Sutra is a valid resource for Christian couples.

What most people refer to as the “Kama Sutra” is the Kamasutram. It is one of the oldest Indian texts and is considered to be the primary Sanskrit work of literature that deals with love and sexuality.

The Kama Sutra is attributed to a celibate scholar named Vatsyayana and is estimated to have been written sometime in the 4th century AD.

There are actually 36 chapters of “the Kama Sutra,” although most Western references to this tome are referring to chapter 10, the chapter that lists various sex positions.

The Kama Sutra is, at base, a Hindu religious text. Consequently, the vast majority of this document would most likely not be of interest to Christians. Most Western utilization of the Kama Sutra has been limited to the description and illustration of various sex positions (64 to be exact) that you will find in the Kama Sutra.

As a Christian, you will most likely find the remaining portions of the Kama Sutra to be either irrelevant or, in some cases, offensive to your sensibilities.

Which is fine; most of us are not seeking information from the Kama Sutra on “virtuous living” or “The Conduct of the Well-bred Townsman.”

My recommendation, relative to the Kama Sutra, is that you find an illustrated list of the 64 sex positions. Such a guide can be a great “idea generator” for finding some variety in your sex life.

One such resource can be found at Kama Sutra Sex Positions. This is a free photo illustration of the 64 Kama Sutra positions utilizing wooden artist’s models. It is not pornographic in any way and fairly helpful in conveying the general idea of most of the positions.

If you want a chuckle, you can also check out the following “Teddy Bear Kama Sutra” video…

Posted: March 20th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Kama Sutra, Sex Positions.
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In Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband and Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife, you will find solid, proven and scientifically-researched techniques for improving the sex in Christian marriage.

In the following video…not so much.

The best quote is…

“God Schmod. I want my monkey man!”

Posted: March 14th, 2007 under Uncategorized.
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Posted: March 13th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Advice, Christian Wives, Christians and Pornography, Special Offers.
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Rob Bell is the founding Pastor of Mars Hill Bible Church of Grandville, Michigan.He is also the author of a new book, “Sex God.”

Unlike Sexual Skills For TheChristian Husband and Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife, this book is not a “technical”guide to sexual performance skills. It is “an exploration of the connections between sexuality and spirituality.”

In this book, Rob contends that our sexuality and spirituality are purposefully intertwined and that we can learn more about both by understanding how they intersect.

One of the messages that we try to communicate most strongly in our career as “accidental sex experts,” is that great sex is the result of great relationships- not the other way around.

Before you can expect sexual fulfillment in your marriage, you have to work towards relational fulfillment. And, in our experience, one of the biggest obstacles that many have to relational fulfillment is allowing themselves to be selfless and vulnerable with their spouse.

Real relationships, based upon “real” love are scary and risky. You MUST be willing to “put yourself out there” in a way that many people are unwilling to do.

One of my favorite sections from Rob’s book deals with this concept…

Love is a giving away of power. When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do as they choose. They can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, they can accept it, they can step toward us in gratitude and appreciation.

Love is a giving away. When we love, we put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

Love is a giving up of control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two - love and controlling power over the person - are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender
all of the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.

So, if you were God - which I realize is an odd way to begin a sentence - but if you were God, the all-powerful Creator of the universe, and you wanted to move toward people, you wanted to express your love for the world in a new way, how
would you do it?

So how would you express your love in an ultimate way? how do you connect with people in a manner that wouldn’t scare them off but would compel them to want to come closer, to draw nearer?

You would need to strip yourself of all the trappings that come with ultimate power and authority. That’s how love works. It doesn’t matter if a man has a million dollars and wants to woo a woman. If she loves him for his money, it isn’t really love.

If you were the almighty being who made the universe and everything in it, you would need to meet people on their level, on their soil . . . like them.

This is the story of the Bible. This is the story of Jesus.

In marriage, you’re talking about power and control only when something central to the whole relationship has fallen apart.

God has given us the ultimate example of “putting yourself out there.” He has completely and freely offered himself to us and we are free to respond as we will. But, he acted first.

Within our relationships, sometimes we need to risk, sacrifice and “put ourselves out there” before we know how our spouse is going to react. We need to expose ourselves and make ourselves vulnerable…FIRST…before we are certain of the results. It is in these areas of FAITH and VULNERABILITY that God can do miracles even in the most broken of
relationships.

Posted: March 13th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Marriage, Sex and God.
Comments: 1

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Posted: March 9th, 2007 under News, Christian Romance, Christians and Pornography, Christian Sex Toys.
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Posted: March 8th, 2007 under Uncategorized, Special Offers.
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