This week, a new Walgreens opened in our town.

I wasn’t really certain why we needed a 24 hour pharmacy, but after one of our first purchases there, I am a Walgreens fan.

We were there simply to check out the new store opening. But, while there, we spotted a new product from Johnson and Johnson’s KY brand…

“Yours And Mine.”

KY has recently introduced several new “intimacy” products, but NONE as cool and fun as this one.

This product is genius.

It is one of those few “intimacy” products that in both packaging and effect is a “home run.”

It perfectly captures the spirit of what we are trying to promote on this site and in, especially, our latest books, Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples and Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions For Christian Couples…sensuality with a sense of fun and excitement.

“Yours and Mine” is a set of two different “intimate lubricants; one for her and one for him.

Each lubricant is in it’s own colored container.

Each lubricant gives a different sensation when it touches skin.

The lettering on the containers glows in the dark.

And, even better…

When the two lubricants are “mixed together” (you figure out the best way to do this!), they create a third, and different, joint sensation!

This product is cool, fun and cheap (less than $20.00) and will provide you and your spouse with many nights of play.

Below is the press release for the product and a video about it. There is a cute little commercial for the product at the end of the video, as well.

K-Y® BRAND YOURS+MINE™
THE FIRST “HIS + HER” INTIMACY PRODUCT FOR COUPLES!
ANOTHER “GLOWING” BREAKTHROUGH PRODUCT FROM THE K-Y® BRAND

Skillman, New Jersey (4/28/08) /PRNewswire/ – Today the leader in healthy intimacy, the K-Y® Brand, announced the first intimacy enhancing product for couples — K-Y® Brand YOURS+MINE™. Knowing it takes two to create a magical encounter, YOURS+MINE™ offers two lubricants with different sensations. One is invigorating for him, the other thrilling for her and together they add up to a totally new experience. Looking to add even more fun? Expose the tubes to light during the day and the words on the vials will glow in the dark, making his “Yours” and her “Mine” easy to find.

“K-Y® Brand YOURS+MINE™ was developed for couples to experience and enjoy together” explains Daniel Weiss, Group Product Director of Personal Care Products. “Through our ongoing conversations with consumers, we have found that couples are consistently looking for ways to enhance their time together. We recognize that it is not just about one partner or the other — it is about the couple.”

K-Y® Brand YOURS+MINE™ serves as a catalyst for creating emotional and physical connections between partners because it provides a unique and fun new way for couples to communicate on an intimate level. Both partners will be curious to know what the other is experiencing, providing the perfect scenario for communication.

YOURS+MINE™ is another innovation by K-Y® Brand designed to enhance intimacy between couples. The brand continues to bring innovation to the intimacy market because the importance of touch extends far beyond the bedroom — recent research suggests that couples who have more frequent and more fulfilling intimacy also report having stronger emotional relationships overall. In addition, studies are showing that men and women with satisfying intimate relations report better physical and mental health.

Different Kind of Product, A Different Kind of Look
To reflect the innovative concept behind K-Y® Brand’s dual lubricants, YOURS+MINE™ is encased in modern, sleek packaging. Two separate test tubes house the lubricants: electric blue for him, vibrant purple for her. Both are capped off with easy to dispense tops and housed in a lustrous black box – with silver accents.

K-Y® Brand YOURS+MINE™ is available now at drug, food and mass retailers. The suggested retail price is $19.99 for two test tube vials, each 1.5 fl oz.

Go Walgreens and KY!

Posted: May 8th, 2008 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Advice, Christian Sex Toys.
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Last week, I put up a post about masturbation.

I received more (100%) positive comments and emails regarding this post than I can remember receiving about (just about) any post in recent memory.

Ironically (last week must have been the “technology week from heck”), our Christian Sex Toy Partner web site, My Beloved’s Garden, went down at the same time.

I wonder if you guys crashed their server looking for some new fun?

Okay, even I don’t think I have that much influence…

Consequently, we received a bunch of emails asking “What is up?”

Don’t worry…you can still find your “toys” in a safe and non-pornographic environment…

Their site is back up and “humming.”

You can, once again, visit them here: Christian Sex Toys.

Posted: March 31st, 2008 under Christian Sex Toys.
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Yesterday, I found a post on a blog by a self-described “sex-radical, feminist sociologist” here.

It is, essentially, a comment piece on the Mother Jones article about Christians seeking sex advice and sex toys.

If you are a regular visitor to this blog, you know that we spend the vast majority of our time attempting to help Christian married couples to improve their marriages and sex lives…not opining about what non-married, non-Christians should or should not be doing.

I find it amusing that Christian’s are constantly painted as nosy and oppressive when it comes to sexuality. And, this article starts with this assumption and then makes several others…

And therein lies the problem. While I want to rejoice that Christian couples are getting good sex advice and affirmation of their desires for pleasures of many sorts, there is no getting around the prohibitions against extramarital sex (which, in every US state aside from Massachusetts also means prohibition against sex with somebody of the same gender, though that is explicitly prohibited for good measure), or sex that involves even fantasizing about extramarital sex. This can’t be sex-positive, and yet I want to be happy that these people who are devoted to their faith are at least getting advice that allows for sexual fulfillment within the oppressive boundaries of their doctrine. Yet if, as Wypijewski suggests, that means usurping “a vocabulary of desire that owes everything to gay liberation’s unlocking of sex even as they slam the door on the notion that gays and lesbians have any right to sexuality,” if it means exploiting gains in sexual freedom that came as a result of enormous risks taken by those who are then explicitly excluded from basic civil rights by the very people doing the exploiting, this can’t be considered positive even in the most generous of interpretations…

This analysis focused on the The Marriage Bed site, a site that I consider to be one of the best resources for married Christian couples.

Basically, the writer’s point was that Christians can’t truly be “sex positive” unless we remove our adherence to all (Scriptural) boundaries sexuality.

Of course, I disagree.

I thought you might be interested in my response to these ideas…

As an author and relationship coach that works primarily with Christian married couples, I highly respect the work done through TMB.

In my own experience, I have seen the damage that “religious psychological baggage” can cause to married Christians relative to sex and sexuality.

There are thousands of married Christians that struggle with a way to reconcile their Christianity and sexuality and TMB is one of the most solid resources for these individuals.

Although I understand (and sometimes empathize with ) those that consider themselves to be outside of the “Christian mainstream” when they feel as if Christians are sticking their noses into their business (and bedrooms), I think you are pointing your criticism and (even) your analysis in the wrong direction.

If you were evaluating a Ted Haggard blog decrying homosexuality, that would be fair enough.

Instead, you are parsing one of the truly sex positive Christian sites in existence.

I fail to understand your reasoning.

You don’t want Christians telling you how to express your sexuality. But, it is okay for you to tell married Christians (of a very specific theological persuasion) how they should think about their own sex lives and sexuality?

I challenge you to find ONE post on TMB (and there are tens of thousands) in which any of the moderators or administrators opines about what someone outside of their assumed audience (married Christians) should or should not be doing sexually.

The members of TMB are attempting to reconcile their own theological predispositions with their sexuality; they are not looking to affect the sexuality of anyone else.

In this scenario, who, really, is the evangelist?

I contend that it is the person hoping to tell Christians (and TMB) what they should think and believe (i.e. “Your silly boundaries are so passe) relative to THEIR marriage, sex lives and sexuality.

That stated, I think “TMB regular’s” point is very relevant…

“‘Secular’ sex therapists like Dr. David Schnarch (The Sexual Crucible; Passionate Marriage) affirm from their clinical studies that monogamous, life-long committed relationships provide the best context for creating potential for and facilitating sexual fulfillment and sexual self-expression…”

If we agree that sex and sexual expression are positive and that we should all be “sex positive,” then it is a relevant (scientific or otherwise) issue to ask, “What circumstances/environments are the most conducive to a healthy, fulfilling and pleasure-filled experience of life-long sexuality?”

Obviously, this author does not believe that the “traditional” Christian boundaries (within marriage, with the opposite sex) provide any real value to this equation.

Most of the members of TMB would disagree. Again, this is not the 1800’s. Most married Christians today have had the opportunity to see “both sides of the fence.” MOST married Christians were single and sexually active. Many married Christians have dabbled in homosexuality. And, in their experience, they find expressing their sexuality within their marriage to be the most fulfilling (and exciting) form of expression.

And, as “TMB regular” stated, many professionals (including “secular” professionals) would agree.

Again…no one (especially on TMB) is sticking their noses into your bedroom.

But, we are not allowed to freely attempt to maximize our own sexuality (within our chosen theology)?

Lastly, your statement, “a vocabulary of desire that owes everything to gay liberation’s unlocking of sex,” is both patronizing and (frankly) naive.

The “gay liberation” movement of the past 40(?) years has “unlocked” sex?

Ten thousand years of sex and sexual expression (nothing new under the sun…sorry) and sex has only been “unlocked” within the past semi-millennium?

You may be referring to your perceptions of Christianity and sexuality. But I assure you that the reality is quite different. The longest tradition of Judeo Christian history has been very much supportive of sex and sexuality as a gift from God (Song of Solomon, anyone?).

The relatively recent (several hundred years?) of institutional and “religious” aversions to sexual expression are not based on Scripture. They are based more on the Platonic idea of the separation of spirit and body…with “things of the body” being lesser and baser.

Posted: August 23rd, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Advice, Christian Marriage, Christians and Pornography, Christians and Porn, Christians and Pornography, Christian Sex Toys, Sex and God, Christian Culture, Marriage Forum.
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There is an article on the Inspire magazine website that
caught my attention.

Apparently, the British television station, the BBC, is
making a documentary about a British-based “Christian Sex Toy” site,
www.whollylove.co.uk.

In this article, one of the co-founders, Stella Hagarty, expresses
frustration that they are having difficulty finding Christians that are willing
to discuss their patronage of their store.

She says,

“Green Bay TV are commissioned to film the documentary for the BBC,
and they have become increasingly frustrated as no clergy or Christians are
prepared to speak on film about the website – for or against… As approximately
40% of our customers are clergy, this is surprising - and says something about
how sex is still a dirty word for the Church…The website provides information
and resources together with sex aids. We are a porn-free website, the first of
our kind in Europe, and do not stock harmful items…”

As you know, we have a relationship with an American “Christian Sex Toy”
site, MyBelovedsGarden.

We are very proud of this relationship and know (based on traffic and email
feedback) that many of our visitors have taken advantage of their “safe
environment” to purchase and explore the use of sex toys.

I would love to get some feedback from our readers on their experiences with
toys.

Posted: June 27th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Toys.
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The problem with the “Christian Sex Toys” links has been fixed.

It was just a temporary domain registration issue and has been resolved.

So, it is time to go back to checking out the fun toys you find there…

Posted: April 2nd, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Toys.
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I have just been alerted by several visitors that the link to the “Christian Sex Toy” site, Mybelovedsgarden.net is no longer working.

It appears as if that domain is no longer working or has moved.

I apologize for any inconvenience this may have caused you.

I am looking into the situation and will update you on the status as soon as I have one.

If this site is permanently down, we will be sure to create a new relationship that guarantees that you have the ability to purchase adult novelties in a non-pornographic and safe environment.

Until then, be creative. It’s amazing what you can accomplish with just what you find in your kitchen….

Posted: March 26th, 2007 under Christian Sex, Christian Sex Toys.
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We are proud to announce that we have put together a partnership with one of the premier Christian Sex Products sites, My Beloved’s Garden.Until recently, it was very difficult to shop online for fun sex toys and products without being assaulted by pornographic images or content.

My Beloved’s Garden provides a wonderful service; it provides marital aids and toys within a safe, non-pornographic environment. Although you will find many fun products for your marital play, you will not find anything degrading, pornographic or objectionable to your Christian beliefs.

The owners of My Beloved’s Garden are a Christian couple that is dedicated to offering other Christian couples great products, superior customer service and an overall supportive environment for your Christian beliefs.

If you are interested seeing what they offer, you can find them at My Beloved’s Garden.

Posted: March 9th, 2007 under News, Christian Romance, Christians and Pornography, Christian Sex Toys.
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